{"id":3374,"date":"2025-06-10T22:07:53","date_gmt":"2025-06-10T22:07:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/survivingmypastbecauseofmyfuture.com\/?p=3374"},"modified":"2025-06-14T02:25:25","modified_gmt":"2025-06-14T02:25:25","slug":"the-power-of-presence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/survivingmypastbecauseofmyfuture.com\/?p=3374","title":{"rendered":"The Power of Presence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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When I was a little girl, I was terrified of thunderstorms\u2013especially the ones that rolled in  overnight and jolted me awake from a deep sleep. It never failed. I bolted straight to my parents\u2019 room every time, landing smack dab in the middle of their bed with a giant thud. Nestled safely between my now-awake mom and dad, I soon fell back asleep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I found myself in a different type of storm five years ago when our 15-year-old son, Dalton, went to heaven. This storm didn\u2019t involve thunder or lightning but weeping, sorrow, and gut-wrenching agony. Maybe you know this type of storm all too well yourself. This violent grief storm left me confused and wondering where to bolt. Intellectually I knew God was right there holding me. After all, the Bible is full of verses like Deuteronomy 3:16, Deuteronomy 31:8, Joshua 1:5, Isaiah 41:10, and Hebrews 13:5 that promise God will never leave us nor forsake us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the days, weeks, and months that followed Dalton\u2019s death, I continued reading God\u2019s Word and praying. If I walked away from Him, I might as well have been standing out in a hurricane with no shelter in sight. But the demanding emotions of grief constantly pushed and shoved against any chance of stability in my heart. My trust in God\u2019s abilities hadn\u2019t left without a trace but certainly felt as if it was being held together with duct tape. The power<\/strong> of His presence kept slipping right through the giant cracks of my shattered heart. I wanted this storm to work like the ones in the good old days\u2013feel afraid, run to my parents, and instantly know everything was going to be okay. Seemed like a pretty reasonable request from the loving Heavenly Father I had spent all of my life learning about in Sunday School.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Out of necessity, grief quickly became the teacher that taught me how to see God\u2019s character in new ways\u2014and in the process, six deeply-rooted illusions I held were graciously uncovered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Drawing near to God will protect me from ever spiraling with intense emotions. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. When I seek the presence of God for comfort, relief will happen instantly.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. God\u2019s presence is only powerful if it solves my problem.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Since God has promised to never leave me, then my faith must be weak if I\u2019m feeling hopeless or am in despair.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. I’m the one in control of assigning value to taking refuge in God.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. God\u2019s presence provides one benefit alone\u2013I won\u2019t be alone.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Do any of these resonate with you today? If so, you are in good company! My grief forced me to ponder my disillusionment. What I found is that disillusionment wasn\u2019t all bad. As Alicia Britt Chole wrote in The Night Is Normal<\/em>, \u201cLosing an illusion opens the way to gaining a reality. Removing false ideas clears a path to finding truer ideas.\u201d Relief! Turns out the size of my faith wasn\u2019t the culprit all along. I just needed to diss<\/em> the illusions I had operated under before devastating loss uprooted my world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Let\u2019s consider what revelations were made after the \u201cfire of Truth refined and purified my beliefs.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    SPIRITUAL SECURITY IS<\/strong> THE ONLY GUARANTEED GOD-GIVEN PROMISE OF PROTECTION.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    As Christians, it\u2019s tempting to interpret verses about God\u2019s protection in reference to our physical safety. And while He does care about our physical well-being, the truth is, the Bible only promises spiritual security. John 10:28-29 reminds us that if we belong to God, nothing can snatch us from His hands. Even when we die, we will be eternally safe with Him forever in glory. My former theology claiming Christians don\u2019t face the same emotional torrents as non-believers was greatly flawed. Living in a broken, chaotic world is the reason John 16:33 testifies that, \u201cin this world, you will have trouble.\u201d And trouble , without a doubt, WILL bring strong, inner wrestling even when we\u2019re sitting with the Prince of Peace. The Good Shepherd isn\u2019t protection from<\/em><\/strong> feeling distress. He\u2019s a refuge when<\/em><\/strong> we feel distressed. Our turmoil is God\u2019s invitation to \u201cbe still and know that I am God.\u201d Even Jesus, who came as God incarnate, felt fear, agony, grief, sorrow, and anger. The presence of pain doesn\u2019t signal the absence of God. It signals your existence in a fallen, sinful world<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    GOD DOESN’T ALWAYS HEAL US IN POOF<\/em>. MORE OFTEN, HIS MOST EFFECTIVE HEALING PRACTICES INCLUDE US BEING STILL OVER TIME BESIDE THE GREAT PHYSICIAN.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Emotions are complicated and highly impacted by life experiences that twist and squeeze our attitudes and views of ourselves, the world around us, and God. We don\u2019t need to understand the mystery behind instant peace on some occasions and slower-than-molasses peace (often for days or weeks) on others in order to trust the Lord’s hand. Scripture supports both outcomes. Remember Bartimaeus’ sight that was instantly restored in the presence of Jesus. And even better, I bet you remember Joseph who was forced to wait more than a decade before his ultimate restoration after being sold into slavery by his brothers. Why the discrepancy? The answer is simple. We. Don’t. Know. What we do know is this–God invites<\/em><\/strong> us and longs<\/em><\/strong> for us to wait upon Him, even if the soothing takes way more time than we approve of. He alone provides the grace necessary to sustain us through every waiting period He puts in our path. Using an individualized care plan, God determines the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual healing (Matthew 22:37) we need and knows precisely what it takes to get each of us there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    GOD’S PRESENCE ACTUALLY BECOMES LESS<\/em> POTENT WHEN HE FIXES MY PROBLEMS AND GIVES ME A LIFE OF COMFORT. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    A bigger, more robust God is required to comfort me, heal me, and use my pain for purpose EVEN THOUGH<\/strong> my problem remains than is required to do the same when I\u2019m getting the exact life I always dreamed of. The presence of God\u2019s Light shines dramatically brighter in the deep, dark cave than it does in the beautiful, bright sunshine. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    MY FAITH ISN’T WEAK. RATHER, IT’S BEEN MIS-FORMED<\/em> BY LONG-STANDING ILLUSIONS THAT NEED TO BE RE-FORMED<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The gut-wrenching pain I feel even when I\u2019m clinging to God on the floor in anguish isn\u2019t sinful proof that my trust is shallow. It proves I\u2019m a human experiencing the sharp, unrelenting sting of death that accompanies tragic, out-of-order loss. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    GOD’S PRESENCE DOESN’T HOLD OR NOT HOLD VALUE BASED ON WHAT I THINK AND DO. IT HOLDS VALUE BASED ON WHO HE IS AND WHAT HE DOES WHILE HE CRADLES M<\/strong>E.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    IN GOD’S ECONOMY, HIS NEARNESS IN OUR SUFFERING YIELDS RAPIDLY MULTIPLYING BENEFITS THAT PLANT HEALING SEEDS OF GRACE.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    • It comforts our aching hearts with a soothing salve. (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It strengthens us when we\u2019re weary. (Isaiah 40:29)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It steadies us when the ground beneath us quakes. (Phillippians 4:7)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It loves us with steadfast endurance. (Psalm 107:1)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It graces us with His faithful companionship. (Joshua 1:5)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It expresses His overflowing goodness, even amidst dreadfully ugly circumstances. (Psalm 27:13)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It sits with us in the muddy pit of loss. (Psalm 46:1)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It guides us so we can keep moving forward in the dark. (Isaiah 58:11)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It accompanies us everywhere we go. (Deuteronomy 20:4)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It lavishly cares for our every need. (Phillippians 4:19)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It testifies that He longs for communion with us. (James 4:8)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It buoys our souls with everlasting joy, keeping us from staying<\/em> submerged when chaos threatens to hold us under. (Psalm 16:11)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It fuels us with Hope\u2013the engine that helps us press on (sometimes well and sometimes not so well) until we finish our race. (Phillippians 3:13-14)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • It promises that death will be defeated once and for all! \u201cWhere, O death, is your sting?\u201d (Isaiah 25:8, 1 Corinthians 15:55-57)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

      God\u2019s presence doesn\u2019t merely offer us a companion in the dark cave. Although a companion definitely tips the scales in the hopeful direction. More importantly, we get a steadfast, <\/em>Sovereign<\/em> sojourner who humbly demonstrates His power by leading us out of the pit of sorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      In his book, The Body Keeps the Score,<\/em> Dr. Bessel van der Kolk explains, \u201cThe most natural way for human beings to calm themselves when they are upset is by clinging to another person.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      I don\u2019t know about you, but I need no further proof\u2013God is the only super<\/em><\/strong>–<\/em>natural person worthy \u201cto cling to when I\u2019m upset.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      The progression used to go like this\u2013I felt afraid, ran to my parents, and found instant calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Now the narrative goes more like this\u2013I feel anguish, run to my Heavenly Father, abide in His love as long as it takes for me to remember that everything is eventually<\/em><\/strong> going to be made right one day. And so it goes as often as needed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Every time\u00a0 the grief skies darken, it’s likely we will still cry, feel sorrow, and even wish the storm to pass quickly. But we must also never forget to keep doing the one thing we know won\u2019t ever let us down: We’ll cling. We’ll cling to the Anchor who never lets go. Because even if the storm doesn\u2019t stop, His presence is our peace and source of true joy, His nearness is our healing, and His grace is the love that tethers us no matter the direction or duration of the storm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      Questions for personal reflection or group discussion<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      1. Did you relate to any of the 5 illusions about the power of God\u2019s presence? If so, which ones and why? Do you hold any other illusions that need to be corrected with Truth?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      2. Have you experienced God\u2019s healing in poof? How about in slower-than-molasses? Describe the differences between the two experiences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      3. Which of the \u201chealing seeds of grace\u201d impacts you in your grief the most? Explain.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      4. Do you have any other \u201chealing seeds of grace\u201d to add to the list? Explain.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      5. Read the verse that goes with each healing seed. Discuss what these verses mean to you in your healing journey.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      6. How has your theology of God\u2019s presence changed in light of your suffering?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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