Category child loss

Coping Strategies in Grief

What does “coping” mean and how can you overcome poor coping strategies? As defined on the Positive Psychology website, “Coping is the use of one or various types of mechanisms that are intended to reduce psychological stress (Gurvich et al.,…

Soothing the Emptiness Inside Us That Remains

During the Our Hearts Are Home webinar on “Navigating Suicide Loss,” the panel was unable to answer several practical questions submitted by participants due to time constraints.  (Here’s the link to this insightful webinar if you’d like to check it out.)…

Inconceivable

Losing Dalton has been brutal, no doubt about it. I didn’t get a choice. But if I had, I would’ve never willingly sacrificed him for the needs of others. In fact, I’ve spent much of the last (almost) 4 years…

My Comfort Is Dependent On My Cooperation

When my kids were little, part of my job as their mom was to comfort them when they were hurting.  Sometimes this was after a physical injury such as a bike accident or a sports injury on the basketball court…

When I’m Sinking

Recently we had a plumber install a new dishwasher in our house.  Because he is efficient , he brought a variety of tools with him to complete the job.  Without the proper tools for each step of the installation,  the…

Joy Isn’t a One-size Fits All

  When your heart has been broken or even crushed, it’s hard to think about surviving a joyous holiday season.  At  times, you may feel shamed by friends and family because you aren’t acting as joyful as they feel you…

Letting God Turn Your Pain Into Purpose

 It’s tempting to avoid spending time processing painful emotions.  Most of us tend to steer clear of pain at all costs.  But when emotions go unprocessed,  they get shoved down where they lay bubbling, ready to ooze out at unexpected…

How Can I Be Satisfied in Life When It Feels So Hard?

  Occasionally after contacting a customer service representative, I have the option to take a satisfaction survey. Recently, I read through the questions of such a survey in wonderment.  How would I respond if God handed me a similar questionnaire about…